cute plushies will be on sale at Pixie
only 1 stock available
I can’t get them anymore ㅠ_ㅠ
do you have a website I can go to? I tried going to your Facebook and the pixie page but I couldn’t find a link
bras are so expensive like i didn’t choose the boob life the boob life chose me
I always save the ecouraging messages you guys leave me :’3
For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.
No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:
“You know! Boys will be boys!”
“He’s just going through a phase!”
“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”
“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”
“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”
I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”
She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.
It was so tempting.
He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.
Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.
His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.
Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.
I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”
Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?
There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.
There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.
Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”
The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement
YES. This is why I’m so big on consent for kids and not doing things against their consent!
this is everything.
reading this and opening the links along with it made me so sad, it made me realize how things are here.
some people really believe that rape is acceptable.
no one respects anyone anymore.
Viewer calls TV anchor fat.
TV anchor responds.
This lady is my hero.
she looks lovely too!
I want to hug her.
Bless her and the nice people in this world. EVERY PERSON WATCH THIS!
Please please please watch this till the end
bless this women.
HOW DID SHE GET THROUGH THIS WITHOUT CHOKING UP. This woman is my new hero.
If you do nothing else today, at least watch this.
she touched base on every topic!
21 year old from The Lone Star State, w a precious baby girl. Living w my boyfriend in a place I've never been (Virginia to be exact). I reblog on this page a lot, but I also share personal stuff, mainly my daughter, boyfriend, Arpakasso collection, and my personal everyday struggle.
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